Saturday, 7 January 2023

Dowry is a social evil whose eradication is the need of the hour

In our society, dowry is a curse, a social evil and a scourge, negating the existence of women. Looking at the social requirements, it seems as if marriage and dowry are an integral part. Whereas the Holy Prophet ﷺ said that the criterion for marriage is religion. Nowadays, we hear such things in places that the marriage of the daughter of so-and-so is arranged on the condition that we need these things as dowry. will bring, due to which it becomes very difficult for a father to send his daughter away. Dowry is strictly prohibited in Islam and in Islam, the financial responsibility is imposed on the husband. "Dowry" is a purely Hindu ritual which aims to give the daughter so much at the time of departure that she cannot ask for her share in the inheritance, but it has no reality in Islam. According to Islamic rules, the simpler the marriage, the more blessed it will be. On the contrary, the more it is displayed, the more unblessed it will be. How many marriages have taken place in such a way that the bride returns to her father's house with the stain of divorce only a few days after the marriage, or the light of her life is extinguished due to low dowry.

Now a new trend has emerged in the society in the form of business to get as much dowry as possible. People have no idea how difficult it is for a father who has young daughters to live in today's times. Even if he gets a good relationship, the sons' fortunes are touching the sky. There are some people who do not consider their daughter less than a princess and consider other's daughters as slaves. Cut off his nose. If seen, many divorces are also due to dowry fights. At present the situation is that no one accepts the relationship of a poor man's daughter due to non-payment of dowry. Even if a capitalist accepts responsibility for the marriage of a poor man's daughter, the news spreads throughout the region that so-and-so's daughter is getting married and they did not have money for dowry. Such marriages are presented as an exhibition and make a spectacle of the poverty of the poor.


Why do people transact dowry? There are number of reasons for this. Giving dowry is to maintain one's honor and dignity in the society, to advertise one's property, to display one's wealth, to gain fame and glory. Sometimes, dowry is given even in sight of each other. Some people also give dowry for support, gift and kindness. Even if they have to take a loan for it. The ritual of dowry contains many evils. For example, loss of property, destruction of the house, deprivation of women's right to inheritance, multiple divorces and death of a girl child, etc. And why shouldn't there be corruption when the wealth of dowry is not given willingly. There is no blessing in such wealth, due to which the above-mentioned evils often come to the fore.

The matter of dowry has actually been corrupted by the girl's parents. For the sake of false exposure and glory, the girl's parents show their status by delivering the dowry to the boy's house ahead of time. Then seeing the same, other people do the same. Parents just think that so-and-so has given their daughter this something in dowry, then we will give more than that. Since the social evil like dowry has been accepted by every class, if the daughter-in-law fails to meet the expectations of her in-laws, then her daughter has to bear the consequences in the form of mental and physical violence. The scourge of dowry has spread so much in our society that a boy sets conditions with his in-laws before marriage that I have to buy a car, motorcycle, fridge, TV etc. I don't know why these men who sell in the name of dowry, while taking dowry, forget that tomorrow their daughters will also be married, tomorrow they will also be in the same situation. That's why my brothers! Take some honorable steps and speak against dowry, because it is not a noble way to collect wealth by demanding dowry. Your greatness and dignity lies in the fact that you are the support of a dignified life for someone who is suffering, poor and distressed, and by bringing him into your marriage, you remove his pain, suffering and pain, not that he Let him cure your neediness and poverty with his dowry.

Among the Muslims, those who are influential, religious and nationalistic will have to ultimately stand up against this curse of dowry and especially the youth will have to sacrifice in this way because tomorrow they too will be the father of a daughter. . There are many groups of Muslims in the society who have enough influence, they should conduct a regular campaign for the abolition of dowry. A change should be made in the thinking and mood of the youth, concepts and thoughts, matters and habits should be molded in Islamic and religious color, only then the curse like dowry and the evils arising from it can be stopped and these things should be applied. For this, the existence of such organizations in cities, villages, villages, villages is necessary, which are active in the society as well as consisting of effective, sincere and compassionate people. If these organizations are established and fight against the evils with interest and activity, many other reform and welfare works can be done by them.


Just as our sermons and sermons describe beliefs, faiths, innovations and polytheism with intensity, we do not explain about dowry with this intensity. Just as the parties on religious differences protest against each other in processions and meetings, they impose disbelief, polytheism and other fatwas on each other through thunderous fiery speeches, the essence of fiery rhetoric is never against the curses of dowry. Only Just think! In our society, people spend thousands and millions of rupees on dowry, if the same rupee money is invested in the education of girls, then a better society can be formed and the real quality of the daughters of the Muslim nation will come out. So come on! Pledge to do your part to end this practice as much as possible and make people aware of its reality.

Nausheen Ansari

Mumbai

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