The best way to be happy is to have low expectations of others

 Expecting too much and allowing yourself to be ruled by your hopes and assumptions is a surefire way to feel unhappy. These expectations can affect your health and well-being. Therefore, setting low expectations of yourself and others is an essential practice for living a peaceful life.

Expectations from others lead to disappointment,
it is within your power to avoid this disappointment.

Pain in life comes when our reality doesn't match our expectations. Most of us women have unlimited expectations. Most of us women expect to achieve certain milestones in life by a certain age. Most women expect to get married, start a family, climb the career ladder, or reach the top in a certain way within a certain time frame. Women expect everything from others to be respectful and trustworthy. They expect relatives and loved ones to always be sympathetic, benevolent and caring. There are many expectations that we all have and when life does not go according to our expectations, we feel hurt and pain and get disappointed and we blame our circumstances, ourselves and others for our disappointment. Lowering your expectations of yourself and others can bring you a lifetime of happiness and peace of mind. It is a concrete fact that unrealistic expectations are poison to our relationships, careers, happiness and life. Having high expectations of others or ourselves is the reason many women are unhappy, because we think that others will treat us well and meet our expectations, and when they do not meet our expectations, we are unhappy. They happen, because as humans we always expect results and we get upset when those expectations are not met. If women want to be happy in life, they should live without expectations. Here are some tips to help you learn to lower your expectations:

Good is rewarded with good

  If you help others without expecting anything in return, you will feel a lot of peace and satisfaction. And you will not be disappointed nor will there be disagreement with others. When you help others or are of use to others, be thankful that Allah has enabled you to help others. Take pleasure in it and do not expect any reward from others in return that others will reward us for our goodness. The hope is to be placed only in the person of Allah Ta'ala, that He, the Supreme God, can only fulfill our expectations.

You cannot control the results

  You can only act, the results are out of your control. Focus your efforts on making yourself happy and reducing frustration. Enjoy the process and keep expectations to a minimum, then whatever you get is your "bonus". When you don't have high expectations and get great results from your efforts and get compliments from all sides, you feel immense happiness.

Your expectations are your assumptions

  When you have high expectations of someone or something, you should know that you are simply assuming things, taking them for granted and trusting them to live up to your expectations. Whether you think people will behave the way you want them to or your personal expectations that your performance will reach a certain level is no guarantee of what you want. Will assume or expect, will happen what is written to happen. You can't change it. When you keep this in mind, your expectations will automatically lower.

Be realistic

  Expecting great things from others or yourself raises your hopes, but robs you of joy. The greater the gap between your expectations and reality, the more likely you are to be disappointed, so it is wise to be aware of the situation and other people's mental state and behavior in order to anticipate How will things unfold? Also evaluate your preparation and hard work towards achieving a goal, this will definitely help you align your expectations with reality and avoid shocks, surprises and disappointments. Apart from this you will be able to lead a peaceful life.

Nausheen Ansari